How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work ? Mix 94.1 Las ...

Long distance relationships suck! I am in one and I can?t tell you how hard it is to say goodbye to my boyfriend and then wait 1, 2 sometimes even 3 weeks to see him. Things get rough, so here are 18 steps to help make any long distance relationship work.

Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. Setting parameters such as naming your relationship (dating, seeing each other, boyfriend-girlfriend, engaged) as well as defining exclusive (limited to one person,) or non-exclusive. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line. Example: ?Are you open to the possibility of relocating if the relationship should become more serious?? or ?What are you looking to get out of the relationship?? Stating your end goal or ideas will allow each person to maintain what they need.

Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible. Since you won?t be seeing each other, it?s important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don?t always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask on for advice. Use an instant messenger program or VoIP for real-time chat, or web cams for that visual connection. E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget. Ensure the e-mails are substantive and detailed, it will show that you care enough to put in the time and effort. Write love letters. Send small gifts, cards, or send flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand?you don?t take communication for granted!

Try challenging each other. This is not the same as being controlling. You may find that you can do things for each other that you couldn?t quite find the motivation to do on your own. Perhaps you could motivate yourselves to get some exercise or to cook better or more often. It will give you something to do while you wait to see your partner again, and it will give you both something to strive for and talk about until then.

Remember: Things will get better with time, and even the relationship will become better. Have hope.

Give them a personal object of yours so in a time of need, when they miss you, they are able to hold on to something that once belonged to you. This will provide comfort, happiness, and the thought of being with you.

Work towards a balanced relationship between partners. A relationship must be built on strong foundations of trust, understanding and determination to make it work. The key is to ensure that an equal amount of effort is made by both parties. The two partners should be reasonable about their expectations and willing to cooperate so that the relationship can lead to a happy ending. If these parameters are taken care of, you have nothing to worry about. But don?t forget to ask some questions because if you don?t, your partner may start to think that you?re losing interest.

Because time together is rare, when you do see each other, take as much advantage as possible of your ability to get intimate with each other. You don?t have that privilege during those stretches when you can?t be with each other physically. You?ve got to keep those feelings of excitement and attraction alive or they will wane in time.

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